Why couples keep Erectile Dysfunction (ED) A Secret

Every relationship has its ups and downs. But when it comes to sexual matters, what’s up and what’s down can be a problem, both figuratively and literally. This is especially true if erectile dysfunction enters the picture.

Many couples do feel embarrassed and uncomfortable talking about Erectile Dysfunction(ED) and this is the same even when they discuss it among themselves. This is why a couple with Erectile dysfunction keeps it a secret and does not talk to the doctor or talk to each other about this underlying problem which can cause some serious issues going forward.

 It is quite common that most men would experience erectile dysfunction (ED) at some point in their life as they age and this is not something they should ignore. Recurring ED can be detrimental to their sex life and can affect the partner too as it is quite frustrating.People are generally very reluctant to talk and discuss sensitive things like Sexuality and Erectile Dysfunction(ED) which are very personal. If one is in a relationship, erectile dysfunction isn’t just happening to the man — it’s happening to the couple. Relationships that work best are those who search for solutions together.

Talking About Erectile Dysfunction (ED): It’s Not You, It’s Me

Talking about erectile dysfunction: It's not you, It's me
Talking about erectile dysfunction: It’s not you, It’s me

Part of the problem is that Erectile Dysfunction (ED) personalizes both men and women and makes it about them. Women think, “What’s wrong with me?” Why was he not turned on to me? 

‘And when you speak to men,they say’ What’s the matter with me? Why am I unable to perform? ‘But sexuality and erection issues are not something to be ashamed of or something to be judged.

Erectile Dysfunction(ED) is the inability to achieve or sustain an erection that is sufficient for sexual activity. It can be caused by a physical condition such as heart disease that causes restricted blood flow to the penis, injury, medication side effects, or psychological factors.

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Erectile Dysfunction(ED) may be a red flag that there is something seriously wrong elsewhere in your body, and owning up to it today could save your life. If you have a problem with blood circulation to your penis, other parts of the body may also be affected. It may mean you have nerve damage from diabetes, for example.

“It’s always “someone’s fault” when couples argue – perhaps that’s why arguments begin in the first place. One blames the other for something, the other disagrees and things escalate from there. Add a sex-related issue to the mix and it quickly becomes an emotional situation.

When a relationship is affected by erectile dysfunction it’s easy to wonder whose fault it is; who is to blame for an organ that simply won’t perform or a sex life that isn’t satisfying? Erectile dysfunction is thought to be the cause of breakups in around a significant proportion of relationships.

In a study published in the journal Circulation, men with Erectile Dysfunction(ED) were at increased risk for heart attack, stroke, or death when compared with men who did not have it. Get checked up and see if you are healthy.

One reason people don’t talk about Erectile Dysfunction(ED) is that they don’t believe there is help available, but there is. The stigma of Erectile Dysfunction(ED) has lifted somewhat due to the advent and availability of drugs, such as sildenafil (Viagra), that treat Erectile Dysfunction(ED), but there is still a long way to go.

Getting Over the Embarrassment

Getting over the embarrassment
Getting over the embarrassment

Even though male sexual health is more open for discussion, it’s still not always easy to bring up. “Men will tell me that they struggled for years and it took forever to decide to talk to someone — they admit that they are still anxious,” he said. “Some men have become more comfortable discussing Erectile Dysfunction (ED) with their partner, but it’s not out there, like everyone talks about their weight, and may never get there. It is still very private and personal.”

There is a psychological component to Erectile Dysfunction (ED) and, at times, ED can be psychological. “I encourage every man to talk to a sexual health therapist,” said Alukal. “I say go home and discuss it with your partner, and tell them you may go see someone — and ask them to come along or see someone as well.”

“Clearing the air can help take away the stigma and shame that goes with a secret,” agreed Diamond. Secrets lead to distancing and more secrets, he said. “Men don’t want to admit it to their wives, so it can lead to affairs,” Diamond said. “Being with somebody new and different can be arousing and exciting. Your manhood comes back, and soon the only way you can feel like a man is to have sex with women other than your wife.”

Talking and Discussing Erectile Dysfunction not only improves your sexual life but also helps to preserve your relationship.

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Why shouldn’t they keep it a secret?

Why shouldn't they keep ED a Secret?
Why shouldn’t they keep ED a Secret?

Sometimes men who are reluctant to share or acknowledge the problem avoid having a sexual relationship with their partner, resulting in frustration and confusion. So men must address their problem with both their doctor or pharmacist and with their partner, as soon as possible, the earlier the problem is identified and treated, the less likely it is to damage the relationship. Early management can also be useful in stopping the development of heightened anxiety.

Improves sex life

Talking about ED is important because the problem can have far-reaching consequences. Aside from the possibility that underlying health conditions remain undiagnosed, ED can create issues with self-esteem and heightened anxiety around sexual activity. This, in turn, can affect relationships.
Our sexual health and relationship with sex evolve as we age. Consequently, it’s not at all uncommon to experience challenges along the way, but just because you experience an issue at a certain point in your life doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy sex again. Besides, multiple studies have shown that healthy sex life can provide a variety of mental and physical health benefits so it’s worth addressing any issues you may be having.

ED can indicate other health problems

While one can experience ED for many physical, emotional, and mental reasons, it can also be a sign of other serious health problems. These might include:

• Diabetes

• Heart and vascular disease

• High blood pressure

• Low testosterone

• Chronic inflammation

• Obstructive sleep apnea

• Stress, anxiety, and depression

• Alcohol, drug, or tobacco use

• Medication side effects

Improves mental health

As ED can be associated with anxiety and depression, your sex life may be impaired by the symptoms of those conditions. ED may be the cause of depression in some cases, however, as the condition can lead to the development of low self-esteem, sadness, or frustration. Discussing with your doctor how to approach ED can alleviate negative thoughts and help boost self-esteem.

Can Help Break The Stigma Surrounding ED

Although ED may be more prevalent among older men, it still affects younger men too, who are often embarrassed to talk to their doctor about it. By going through the process, you can give helpful advice about their sexual health to others who may be too uncomfortable to come forward with their doctors.

How couples can overcome Erectile Dysfunction?

How couples can overcome Erectile Dysfunction?
How couples can overcome Erectile Dysfunction?

Sex Therapy :

Sex therapy can help some couples, married or dating, address sexual problems together. ED can often be the reason why sex stops in a relationship, causing stress to the relationship or marriage — sex therapy can help with this. ED is usually physical but about 10-15% of cases can be emotionally/psychologically based.

Sex therapy can help couples:

  • Identify the root causes of ED, mitigating uncertainty, and concern.
  • Understand what works for the arousal preferences and needs of each partner.
  • Improve communication around sex and how as a couple they speak about sex.
  • Learn exercises for breathing, techniques for relaxation, and/or sexual anatomy.
  • Change how, beyond sex, you show desire and affection.

Lifestyle changes:

Lifestyle Changes
Lifestyle Changes

As part of treatment, a person with ED may need to make certain lifestyle changes, such as:

  • stopping smoking, if a smoker
  • limiting or eliminating alcohol intake
  • increasing exercise
  • maintaining a moderate body weight
  • stopping illegal drug use, if relevant

Those in a relationship with someone with ED can help their partner do this by providing moral support. In some situations, it may be beneficial for them to participate in the changes, too.u

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